The problem is that most people try and repress/hide the shadow. They refuse to allow it to come out usually because of fear. As painful as these past memories are of we've done or had done to us- they are in itself a gain- because what is "inferior", "hidden", or what I deem as "worthless" belongs to you as your shadow and it gives me substance and mass. How can I be substantial if I fail to cast a shadow? Just like star wars, you must have a dark side also if you are to be whole; and inasmuch as you know that you walk with a shadow you can start to accept yourself as human like any other.
When you acknowledge your true self, good and bad, when you live your truth and form one with your shadow, you become free. You've become whole in your ability to be honest and true, continually searching for your wholeness. This aligning leads to honesty, honesty leads to growth and growth leads to freedom. Allow yourself to be free.
-Psych!