"Seek and ye' shall find"
It's so sad to think that so many people also hide their self abuse by calling it, "self improvement", "growth" and "challenging one self." Sorry folks...nit picking and bullying yourself/ calling yourself names is not called "self improvement, growth or challenging one self"...it's called stupid.
When you do it to the point of exhaustion, and begin to have feelings of guilt, shame, and frustration about who you are, or even overly beat yourself up when you make a mistake- you've gone too far. We can always find something "bad" or "wrong" in any situation when we are looking for it.
Because we are always finding something "wrong" with us, we don't spend too much time trying to find something "right" with us. Not too many people will openly say where they are "right" or "good". Where they are talented and amazing. Where they are unique and wonderful. As a sidebar folks, today's homework for the readers is to find where you are "right", where you are amazing and work on using a bullhorn to announce it. You're not announcing it to others, by the way, you're announcing it to yourself.
Remember, we all have superpowers. One of which is our ability to change who we are.
What if every time you said, "Oh...I'm so fat! I'm just a fatty!" you instantly blew up, and could put any sumo wrestler to shame with how fat you were?
What if every time you said, "Oh...I'm so stupid!" you instantly dropped in IQ and could barely utter sentences as you slobbered over yourself?
What if every time you said, "Nothing good ever happens to me!" you instantly lost your car, bus pass, got kicked out of your house and broke your legs?
I guarantee that if things instantly came true as we announced them, no one would dare say them. No one would ever be mean to themselves. Instead, we would focus on only positivity, only on things that made us feel good...only things that made us better people- that's the trick, folks! Whether you believe it or not, the more you say negative things about yourself, the more true they become. The more you beat yourself up, the more it happens. You are your worse bully. And you're abusing yourself when you do, and say such horrible things about yourself.
If your words are the foundation for action, and action is the foundation for belief, and belief is the foundation change, then the way you say things will lead to different understandings, which will turn into new beliefs, and result in greater growth. So why are you loading the system with shit...when you could be churning out gold?
Want to know why you think you are fat? Want to know why you feel stupid? Want to know why you have bad luck? Because you believe it. And you're believing it because you keep repeating that you are. Because you've sold yourself on those ideas and because you refuse to accept that you can have more, are better and are worthy.
You will never have the things you want for yourself unless you're willing to buy them- positivity, belief/faith in yourself, and kindness being the only currency you need.
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